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Some things I’ve learned after one year on the job

Some things I’ve learned after one year on the job

June 11, 2015 |  Category:   life me

More than ever before, I feel quite split into multiple work personalities. If I’m feeling critical, I might say that I’m avoiding a commitment one way or the other. If I’m feeling generous, I might say that I’m just making sure that we’re not putting all of our eggs in one basket by pursuing all opportunities. Jobs, the economy, clients, customers, trends – they can all be fickle, so it’s hard to say no while opportunities still manage to come my way. It’s that freelance mentality. When you’ve created this life supported by hobbling together various businesses and freelance projects for so long, it’s quite scary to cut the cord and jump all the way in.   But I think… CONTINUE READING

seeing the signs – when everything points to here

seeing the signs – when everything points to here

November 7, 2014 |  Category:   life me

So this new job of mine officially became A JOB this month, and by all caps, I mean I went on payroll in November. Big stuff around here considering I haven’t been on payroll anywhere in 11 years. And the thing that clinched it? Health insurance.   Obamacare hasn’t worked out well for families like ours – middle class, freelancers, a family of four in NYC. When ACA rolled out this time last year, I largely ignored it because I quickly realized that the health insurance that I had through Freelancers Union, a plan that I had switched over to 4 years ago to save on skyrocketing premiums, was still a better deal than the plans that were on available on… CONTINUE READING

clearing the fog

clearing the fog

October 5, 2014 |  Category:   life me

There are days when I think I’m crazy for trying to do too much. I don’t usually get to everything that I’d like to do in any given week (close enough, however) and this is almost always a set up for failure, yet I can’t help myself. Maybe it’s a great quality to have – ambition and drive, blind faith that it will all get done – or maybe it’ll be my greatest downfall. Overcommitment. Crash and burn. I haven’t yet and this fuels the perception that it can always be done, so I push on a little more; pile more things on to the list; say yes to everything.   I will say that even though this has been… CONTINUE READING

keeping afloat

keeping afloat

September 15, 2014 |  Category:   life me

Nothing like getting knocked back a few pegs in the last week to remind you that you’re on a long road toward any kind of normalcy. I’m not afraid to admit that I’m feeling totally lost. I’m trying not to hold in so much anger at the world either, but this year has totally knocked the wind out of me and it started months before it culminated in our loss. I don’t really know who I am right now; I don’t even know what identity the business is anymore. We’re barely keeping afloat.   Can I tell you a little story? A few weeks before our trip in early August, the girls and I were doing errands in the neighborhood.… CONTINUE READING

a different view

a different view

July 11, 2014 |  Category:   life me

This is my view 2 days a week. You’ve probably seen it on Instagram if you follow me there.   So this office thing…was something that was loosely in the works for a few months now, but still a bit unexpected when it happened. Earlier in the year I’d been contemplating some moves that would potentially be a transition away from what I’ve been doing career-wise for the past 18 years. Nothing that was definitive or that held any answers to what I was going to do with my life, but enough of a shift to feel like I was finally doing something about it after years of feeling stuck.   I’m one of those people who can work perfectly… CONTINUE READING

34 days gone by

34 days gone by

June 29, 2014 |  Category:   life me

I don’t want to turn this into a grief blog, but then again, if I’m not writing about what I’m feeling, what am I writing about instead? The way I see it, it can go one of two ways. I can understand how some people might want to alienate themselves from everything and everyone they know after a loss like this. Sometimes the only thing that makes sense is retreating into your own world and starting over. It feels completely fake to put on a “normal” front every day for the benefit of your children, your family, your neighbors, your friends and clients. It’s like you do this so they can feel comfortable in your presence. You know, avoid the… CONTINUE READING

reinventing yourself, and rambling thoughts on career change

reinventing yourself, and rambling thoughts on career change

April 30, 2014 |  Category:   life me rambling

I was presented with an interesting question on two separate occasions recently which really made me stop and think about my perception of myself. “What do you want?” In the context of jobs, deals or my career, it’s not exactly a question that I get asked since it’s usually about the needs of the client or the project. Usually it’s something along the lines of “what can you bring to the table? What can you do for this project?” But what do I want? It’s such a simple question, but a deceptively hard one to answer.   My particular issue has always been that I don’t really know what I want (well I kind of do in a big dream… CONTINUE READING

Approaching the middle in age and raising girls part 5

Approaching the middle in age and raising girls part 5

April 10, 2014 |  Category:   life me parenting

This is my favorite photo of me and Miss C, taken by Mia last year. It reminds me of summery good times.   I often make jokes about how old I am, not because I’m in any kind of denial, but chances are I’m gonna be older than most everyone I meet nowadays if you consider the industry and the social circles that I work in. Most people think I’m in my 30s because I think they just assume that I’m “their age”, so when I do tell people how old I really am, it’s usually either met with an “oh” or a “what, for reals?” Which makes me sometimes think, what the hell, why this reaction? This is a… CONTINUE READING

when you’re not the breadwinner anymore

when you’re not the breadwinner anymore

July 17, 2013 |  Category:   art + design life me rambling

*The image above is the homepage of a recently launched project that I designed earlier this year. See the full website here.   On Facebook the other week, I threw out on my status that I was looking for a new career and that any and all suggestions would be considered. I didn’t have any revelations on the new career of my dreams, but it did spark some interesting conversations with some friends who shared similar thoughts. Technology and industries are evolving so fast these days that we’re needing to adapt and reinvent ourselves every 5-10 years in order to survive. Plus sometimes we just need a change. With the way things have been gone this past year with work,… CONTINUE READING

sorting through the clutter

sorting through the clutter

April 30, 2013 |  Category:   life me rambling

I’ve been in between work projects for about 2 weeks now, and I’ve taken that time to sort through and clean every closet and junk drawer in the house. Yes, OCD at its finest. I’m an expert purger, unforgiving when it comes to cleaning out the clutter from our house. Toys, clothes, books, knick knacks, games – anything that we haven’t used in a year gets boxed up and put out on the street. In New York, you can put things out on the curb and 98% of the time, everything will be gone in a matter of hours. But there are 2 things that I can never give up despite thinking that one day I might let them go:… CONTINUE READING

on facing your age, the gray hairs, and oh the shredding!

on facing your age, the gray hairs, and oh the shredding!

April 25, 2013 |  Category:   life me

So, this whole “Pay Yourself First” thing that I posted about a few weeks ago isn’t really happening in the way I expected. I wish I could tell you that I’ve made some progress on the art front, but that hasn’t happened…yet. But something else did that I didn’t quite expect.   Friends, I am exercising.   Oh you know, whenever my doctors ask me if I’m exercising, I nod and say, “yes, not as often as I should, but I do”. But what this actually means is that I do some half-assed yoga and stretches at home once, maaaaybe twice a week if I can get around to it. I’ve never really been an exercising type of person and… CONTINUE READING

why do we blog?

why do we blog?

April 23, 2013 |  Category:   life me rambling

About a year ago, a friend of mine hurled some words at me during an exchange that weirdly escalated into an uncomfortable misunderstanding and it stuck with me like an annoying fly all these months later. I wanted to ignore it, but I couldn’t. It wasn’t even directly related to what we were arguing about and it was an offhanded remark, maybe even a cheap shot, but there was some truth to it. It made me examine some of the reasons why we blog and put ourselves out there in social media. Is blogging a creative release? Yes. Is it self promotional for the business? Sure. Is it a way to connect with people and form some sort of community?… CONTINUE READING

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