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a day in the city, in which we survive pre-holiday madness midtown

a day in the city, in which we survive pre-holiday madness midtown

November 18, 2013 |  Category:   favorite posts holidays life nyc

The girls sometime play this game on the subway, in which they pretend to be strangers who meet on the train and become friends. Their ability to stay in character for extended periods of time can be quite impressive. I felt like we were role playing a bit on Saturday, the girls and I, pretending to be fancy New Yorkers as we got ready to head into Midtown. Maybe it’s because the girls wanted to wear dresses and I wore high heel boots, but we were already feeling a little fancy when we stepped out the door in the morning. “Girls!”, I said. “We’re spending the day in the city!”   Sometimes when I’m procrastinating and daydreaming, I wonder what… CONTINUE READING

I’m too old for the pit

I’m too old for the pit

October 3, 2013 |  Category:   favorite posts life

It’s still summer in NY. 80 degrees and warm with only a slight temperature drop in the evenings. I took a break last night to see a show I bought tickets for a few months ago. I really needed the break even though the thought of being packed in a crowd standing for a few hours in a stuffy room wasn’t particularly appealing. I had one of those moments walking around the city last night where I felt really happy to be living in NY. I don’t know why, but seeing how alive the streets were made me glad to be out in the world. Have you ever been to a concert by yourself? I started doing this because I… CONTINUE READING

eat, pay, leave. it’s not that complicated.

eat, pay, leave. it’s not that complicated.

January 11, 2013 |  Category:   cooking dining out favorite posts growing up half life nyc remembering

I don’t know why we don’t eat in Chinatown more often. Believe it or not, it’s been well over a year since we’ve eaten at any Chinatown restaurant which seems so utterly crazy since dumplings and dim sum are probably Mia’s favorite food (Claudine, not so much). We do eat plenty of dumplings and have even made our own quite a few times, but dim sum only seems to be a once a year thing for us. Why is that?   But sometimes when you have a craving there is no stopping it, which is what happened last weekend with soup dumplings. We decided to go to Shanghai Cafe again on Mott Street above Canal because we almost always get… CONTINUE READING

tree follies

tree follies

December 11, 2012 |  Category:   favorite posts holidays home life

The scene is set in a Brooklyn apartment. A 7 foot tree lays on its side on the hardwood floor. A man struggles to fit the cheap metal tree stand on the 7 footer, cursing under his breath that he could have sworn that he declared last Christmas as the last year they would use this flimsy tree stand. He tightens the screws, hoists the tree back up and the family stands back. The tree is crooked. The man lays the tree back down, fiddles with the screws around the trunk and hoists the tree back up. The family stands back and looks. Crooked. The man summons the woman to hold the tree as he attempts to adjust the 7… CONTINUE READING

Raising Girls part 4 or Things I’m Afraid to Tell you

Raising Girls part 4 or Things I’m Afraid to Tell you

May 3, 2012 |  Category:   favorite posts life me parenting rambling

This post is part of an effort organized by Ez from Creature Comforts encouraging bloggers to open up today and write something about themselves that they might not normally share with their readers (head over to her site to see a list of participating blogs). It probably won’t come as any surprise that I wholeheartedly support more of this openness and it harks back to that post earlier this week about shutting out some of this internet chatter because it’s become so unrealistic to measure ourselves against everything and everyone out there. I remember talking once with a very talented designer whose work I really admired. You know, the kind of person who seemed like creative ideas just came easily… CONTINUE READING

when you’re the breadwinner in the family

when you’re the breadwinner in the family

June 30, 2011 |  Category:   family favorite posts life me nyc rambling

Actually, it’s all I’ve ever known. My mom was always the breadwinner of our family and the one who made all the financial decisions. Maybe on the exterior it appeared like my dad was the head of the family, but in truth, my mom quietly ruled the household finances behind the scenes. It made for an uncomfortable dynamic, a reversal of roles in a culture where traditionally, the man is seen as the patriarch. It became even more magnified when my mom started earning big money when she switched careers to real estate from nursing. Nobody was fooled after that into thinking my mom wasn’t the money maker. As a girl growing up, my parents’ relationship was confusing and difficult… CONTINUE READING

mothers

mothers

May 13, 2011 |  Category:   family favorite posts life parenting remembering

I meant to write this post for Mother’s Day, but it was pretty nice not dealing with the internet or this blog or twitter or facebook for a couple of days over the weekend. I recommend it. Now that the girls are a bit older, I sometimes imagine what kind of mother/daughter relationship I’ll have with the girls when they’re both adults. Will we be close? Will they feel like they can come and talk to me? Will they feel like I can understand them? Relate to them? Be there for them? And then I ask myself the same questions about my mom. It’s such an interesting journey, that relationship with your mother. My relationship with my girls are still… CONTINUE READING

neither one, or the other

neither one, or the other

March 24, 2011 |  Category:   family favorite posts growing up half life me remembering

When I wrote that Tiger Mom related post last month, I was reminded of the identity struggles I grew up with as a first generation Asian-American. I often felt that I was straddling between 2 cultures, never completely one nationality or the other. Often I felt like I was expected to behave one way with my family, which sometimes conflicted with what I felt was the “American” way of doing things. I’m a US citizen, but I wasn’t born here. I came to NYC in the 70s with my dad when I was 3 and reunited with my mom who had already been working here as a nurse for 2 years when she left Korea when I was a year… CONTINUE READING

little ladies who lunch for a good cause

little ladies who lunch for a good cause

March 12, 2011 |  Category:   favorite posts life outings

Where *are* we? I may have asked myself the same question a few times. Ok, full disclosure (and you know how I feel about sponsorships, ads on blogs, tie-ins with corporate entities, etc.etc. Why yes, I am a bore), but the girls and I were invited to a “Chari-Tea” party with Kelly Ripa on Thursday, sponsored by Electrolux to kick off their campaign to raise awareness and support for the Ovarian Cancer Research Fund. You don’t have to buy anything and you don’t even have to donate any money. All you have to do to participate is visit www.kelly-confidential.com , pick an outfit for a virtual tea party and Electrolux will donate $1 on your behalf for every visit. Look,… CONTINUE READING

how not to sell at markets

how not to sell at markets

December 21, 2010 |  Category:   favorite posts holidays life the biz

I have to be honest with you. I don’t *really* enjoy being behind the table at Fleas and Markets. Because of the way things have gone for us, however, I’ve been at the Flea a lot more than originally planned – 5 of the first 6 days – so that Mark can be at the kitchen to bake. It’s been stressful trying to juggle schedules because of my own client work, so on the slower weekdays I’ve been bringing my computer in and working while manning the table. I’m getting used to the selling thing by now, but I’m a terrible sales person, I think. This is related to that whole “I feel pushy promoting cookies” sort of thing that… CONTINUE READING

have you ever been to the epicenter of NYC hell?

have you ever been to the epicenter of NYC hell?

December 5, 2010 |  Category:   favorite posts holidays life nyc

If you would have asked me where that was 20 years ago, I would have said Times Square before the Disneyfication of the Guiliani years, though now it’s arguably a different kind of hell all its own. These days, however, I would have to say the Rockefeller Center area during the holidays is the epicenter of NYC hell. Don’t believe me? I dare you to go during any peak holiday weekend and disagree with me. It’s a funny thing. You’re at home, sort of bored and itching to feel the holiday spirit, so you start imagining this festive afternoon with your family, visiting the tree, sipping hot cocoa while watching the ice skaters glide across the rink, popping into a… CONTINUE READING

rock stars, dudes, and daneene

rock stars, dudes, and daneene

September 27, 2010 |  Category:   favorite posts life

You want to know what you should do the next time you have a frustrating week? Go to a concert. No, not any concert, but a rock concert, and preferably metal/grunge/hard rock whatever if you’re into that kind of thing. I was just thinking last week how I always used to hang out with guys, mostly because of the people that I went to school with (musicians and audio engineers, and then later programmers and computer geeks). I sought close friendships with women during that time because I felt I didn’t have it and then it turned out to be really hard to find. I’ve only developed close relationships with women in the last 5 years or so. But you know… CONTINUE READING

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