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things that keep me up at night pt 2 + things I want to teach my kids

things that keep me up at night pt 2 + things I want to teach my kids

March 27, 2013 |  Category:   life parenting rambling

Retirement. I know…that word. Doesn’t seem like this impossibly far away thing anymore and I woke up one day rather consumed by it as if a switch went off overnight, much like when I knew I wanted to have a baby.   I wasn’t taught as a kid about money and saving, though I wish I had been. I don’t blame my parents; it wasn’t in their culture or upbringing to know about things like retirement accounts or even savings accounts for that matter – not when you come from a poor, wartime childhood. I also think in traditional Asian cultures, children are expected to take care of the elderly so retirement planning isn’t quite what it’s like here, though… CONTINUE READING

the kindness wall

the kindness wall

November 19, 2012 |  Category:   life parenting

We had parent teacher conferences last week and as I was waiting for my turn and looking around at all the artwork in the hallway, I noticed the “kindness wall” created by C’s class. It was filled with annotated drawings by the kids that demonstrated various acts of kindness as conceived and interpreted by 6 year olds. It made me think how interesting it is that we need to reinforce and teach kindness, selflessness and compassion to children. Aren’t these traits already inherent in human nature? Or is our natural instinct to protect our own best interest? I don’t really know the answer, but I do know that I sometimes need to gently nudge the girls towards the more selfless… CONTINUE READING

the girl knows what she wants

the girl knows what she wants

October 15, 2012 |  Category:   life outings parenting

I think Claudine takes after me in more ways than one, but the thing I’m noticing lately is just how particular she is about things and how she belabors over certain decisions. I always think that the most stressful part of Project Runway is when they have to shop at Mood Fabrics and I can never ever be on that show (well, other than the fact that I’m not a fashion designer) purely because of the fact that I can take FOREVER deciding on a purchase. The last time I was at Mood I spent about an hour and a half just choosing 3 yards of a single linen. I think that part of the competition alone would be the… CONTINUE READING

undramatizing

undramatizing

September 25, 2012 |  Category:   life parenting

Is that a word? Undramatizing.   I’ve been thinking a lot about that over the weekend. We seem to be chasing after it with Claudine who’s at an age where everything is full on drama, magnified by the fact that she’s very sensitive about a lot of things. It’s a phase I’m sure, and one that I know we’ll have some respite from, at least until the teenage years hit.   But I’ve also been learning how to do this myself. Had a bad day Friday and I went into a panic and straight into triage mode. But all the while I kept thinking to myself, I know how to do this, it’s scary, but we know how to do… CONTINUE READING

Pike Place, us against them, + maybe we’re doing something right

Pike Place, us against them, + maybe we’re doing something right

August 31, 2012 |  Category:   life parenting Seattle & the NW travels

Pike Place. Touristy. Crowded. Never really changes.   Yet, every year we find ourselves walking down that steep hill towards the market even though some years we think about skipping it. Sometimes Pike Place is too hectic with little kids. Not so easy pushing a stroller through the crowds when they were younger, and more recently, it’s sometimes hard to see them in a sea of people if you momentarily lose grip of their hand. Last year Mark and I even walked around by ourselves while the kids stayed with grandma and had the best leisurely time, but maybe 2 years in between visits for the kids is long enough for some things to change because we had a great… CONTINUE READING

my week with Miss C

my week with Miss C

August 10, 2012 |  Category:   life nyc parenting

I have to admit, I wasn’t sure how this week was going to go. Claudine was done with camp for the summer, but Mia had another week to go which meant that Claudine would be home all week. Not that it’s a bad thing, no, however at this point it’s just easier when there are 2 kids in the house, not 1, and the girls are very used to having each others company now that they are on the same exact school schedule as of a year ago. I guess you can say…they are sort of codependent. Their close relationship is fascinating to me as someone who grew up with a brother who is 6 years younger.   But Claudine… CONTINUE READING

10 years ago in June we were here

10 years ago in June we were here

June 27, 2012 |  Category:   life parenting travels

Before the kids, before the business, before a mortgage and life insurance…we got married on O`ahu, but spent a week on the big island of Hawaii after the wedding and after all the family had left. Mark and I had been to Hawaii numerous times before and we do have a family connection to the islands as that is where his mom grew up, but neither of us had been to the Big Island prior to this trip. We rented a house by the water and at times felt like the only 2 people in the world. That trip would also be our last. It’s been 10 years. We want to go back.   Mia has heard enough stories about… CONTINUE READING

no debate here

no debate here

April 24, 2012 |  Category:   life nyc parenting

I think one of the great pastimes of being a New Yorker is debating on whether or not to stay in the city or move. You can pretty much overhear or give your 2 cents on this conversation anywhere you are – at a dinner party, a playdate, the playground, online. I think the answer is clear cut for people who make the decision early on that they don’t want to raise their kids in this city, but for the rest of us, the debate can be endless. Usually the argument for moving out is more space, better schools, not having to navigate the ridiculous NYC school system, cheaper housing stock, the desire for a backyard, a quieter life, or… CONTINUE READING

raising girls part 3

raising girls part 3

March 22, 2012 |  Category:   life parenting

Mia got her ears pierced last Sunday. She had been asking about it for a year now, but I kept brushing her off thinking she was too young. I don’t remember when I got my ears pierced, but I know I was older so I assumed that she would be older too, but really…some things don’t really work that way these days. I came around to letting her get them pierced because she rarely asks for things persistently and she rarely wants something so bad and I thought surely my parents would back me up that she was too young, but neither of them batted an eye about it (they sure made me wait).   So how do you decide… CONTINUE READING

Correspondence, the old fashioned way

Correspondence, the old fashioned way

March 19, 2012 |  Category:   life parenting remembering

Forgot I took a picture of these postcards the girls sent from our trip to LA to various friends, neighbors and family. It’s kind of amazing that the notion of writing postcards is still in their vocabulary, considering, but I suppose we’re not a very gadget-heavy household as far as the kids are concerned.   So much of their childhood is different from mine – the absence of a certain carefree innocence as dictated by how times have changed since I was a kid maybe, yet other stuff feels exactly the same too. I can see myself in them sometimes. I remember stuff that happened when I was 8. I was reading the some of the same books that Mia… CONTINUE READING

new bridges

new bridges

July 15, 2011 |  Category:   family growing up half life parenting

I’ve referred to my mom quite often in recent posts about childhood and parental role models, but not much about my dad. If you’ve been here for while, you may know that my relationship with my dad has been complicated and I keep it generally vague, partially because he started reading the blog about a year and a half ago (you think it’s awkward to get a Facebook request from your parents? Try having your parents read your blog!! Awkward x 10!). But as I’ve written before, the kids have been a great “buffer” in our relationship and he adores them. We see my parents quite often, every 3-4 weeks, and summers are particularly fun because my dad teaches the… CONTINUE READING

the supermom myth + follow up on breadwinners

the supermom myth + follow up on breadwinners

July 13, 2011 |  Category:   life me parenting the biz

I never thought there would be this kind of response to the “breadwinner” post, but it’s gotten the most comments of any other post on the blog so far (aside from the ones where we’re giving away free cookies) and I’ve enjoyed reading through them all. Your comments and emails have also helped me to sort through some tough rollercoaster feelings I’ve been having as I float through this summer with a lighter work schedule, though Mark reminded me yesterday that I am still working all the time because I still have to tend to matters of our W&S business on a daily basis (I don’t often think of that as “working”, why is that?). As I’ve mentioned before, my… CONTINUE READING

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