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bored

bored

July 7, 2011 |  Category:   life parenting

Can’t tell you how many times I hear this word in a day. I usually reply with a few suggestions (that usually get shot down), but sometimes when I feel really exasperated I might say, “only boring people get bored” (god, wouldn’t you hate it if your mom kept saying that to you?). The girls have been out of school for almost 2 weeks now and while we’ve managed to schedule a lot of outings and activities since then, I can’t do it everyday. I just can’t. I’m not afraid to admit that I’m a homebody at heart, but this is hard to be when you have kids. I need quiet and alone time for my sanity and sometimes I… CONTINUE READING

transparency

transparency

June 24, 2011 |  Category:   life me parenting

This is a word that has been coming up a lot. I get asked every now and then if I mind sharing such personal details about my life on a public blog. The answer would be no. I wouldn’t write anything that I wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing. The other question I might get asked is “why?”. I often say that this blog is more for me than for any audience, but the “why” part of it did become a little more clear when I sat down a few weeks ago with Joanne Wilson who interviewed me for her Woman Entrepreneur Mondays series. We talked, among many things that morning over coffee, about how we were both in agreement that there… CONTINUE READING

nobody told me there’d still be days like this

nobody told me there’d still be days like this

June 21, 2011 |  Category:   life parenting

Seriously…I thought the hormonal, emotional crying days were over when I weaned the last kid off diapers, but nobody told me that it doesn’t end there. And I wonder why I felt so off kilter all last week. I don’t do well with goodbyes. Like at all. Especially when it signals something significant, like the end of some kind of era. But it’s been in the air lately and with it, the tendency to drop tears at any random moment. For example, at Mia’s end of the year ballet recital, it wasn’t the sight of my child prancing diagonally across the studio floor with toes pointed and arms bent in a circle that made me emotional. No, it was witnessing… CONTINUE READING

spontaneity

spontaneity

June 12, 2011 |  Category:   life parenting travels

I’ve been thinking a lot about the choices we have made in the last 8 years to craft this life of flexibility. Flexibility was born out of the need to become creative with childcare, to make it more affordable while still working as many full time hours as possible. It was also born out of the recognition that I don’t do well with routine, particularly within office and corporate culture. Flexibility is so valued in our lives that we have held off on important, big decisions like opening a store. Even though we crafted this life of flexibility to be more present and involved parents while juggling full time work hours, ironically it’s now the kid’s schedules that have made… CONTINUE READING

mothers

mothers

May 13, 2011 |  Category:   family life parenting remembering

I meant to write this post for Mother’s Day, but it was pretty nice not dealing with the internet or this blog or twitter or facebook for a couple of days over the weekend. I recommend it. Now that the girls are a bit older, I sometimes imagine what kind of mother/daughter relationship I’ll have with the girls when they’re both adults. Will we be close? Will they feel like they can come and talk to me? Will they feel like I can understand them? Relate to them? Be there for them? And then I ask myself the same questions about my mom. It’s such an interesting journey, that relationship with your mother. My relationship with my girls are still… CONTINUE READING

the other half

the other half

April 26, 2011 |  Category:   family growing up half life parenting

Technically 1/4. I always wonder if mixed race people identify more with one side of their racial makeup than the other. I also wonder if you become influenced by how you identify yourself based on how you look, mostly because that’s what other people see first – your outward appearance. I’ve written about my identity confusion growing up, but my struggle wasn’t about race or ethnicity, but rather, nationality. My girls are undoubtedly American (as I am too), but I wonder if they’ll ever feel confused about what race or ethnicity they “belong” to. Will it matter by then? Does it matter now? They have stronger ties to their Korean heritage than their Russian, Norwegian or Italian side and that… CONTINUE READING

sink or swim

sink or swim

April 12, 2011 |  Category:   life parenting

I remember the first time I felt like a failure as a new parent, the day when I just wanted to send the baby back, when I kept thinking to myself “what the HELL was I thinking having one of these things?”. Mia was a pretty easy baby, relatively speaking, but there were a few weeks in those early months when she cried a lot and I cried along with her. I don’t think you ever forget the first time you felt like you lost control as a parent, the first time you felt like giving up, the first time you put the baby down in the crib even though the baby was screaming, and walked away because you didn’t… CONTINUE READING

rain. balance. art.

rain. balance. art.

March 17, 2011 |  Category:   art + design life nyc outings parenting

God, I was cold yesterday. Didn’t think I would be since the forecast said it would be around 55 degrees. I didn’t know that it was so rainy outside, so the girls were under prepared for the wet weather. I went with Claudine on her class field trip to MoMA and as we were walking the 10 or so blocks to the train station, her little feet got wet inside her non-waterproof boots. I kept thinking about how uncomfortable and cold she must be wearing wet tights all day inside her boots. When we did finally get home, her feet were cold and wrinkled. Taking 14 preschoolers to MoMA is a good idea in theory, but the museum was super… CONTINUE READING

scooters and a lesson about race

scooters and a lesson about race

March 1, 2011 |  Category:   growing up half life parenting

We’ve pulled the scooters out now that the weather has been exhibiting Spring-like tendencies. Claudine was barely able to ride it when we put it away 4 months ago, but something must have happened during those few months. Maybe she’s grown into her body a bit more (or her “big fat head”, as she likes to call it), or maybe she’s a bit more coordinated. Whatever it is, she hopped right on there and started zooming down the street like she’s been doing it for years. Have to admit, it sort of makes me nervous seeing her go down a hill so fast. I mean, we didn’t have scooters when we were her age. We rode around the sidewalks in… CONTINUE READING

who needs Tiger Mom when you have stereotypes to fulfill?

who needs Tiger Mom when you have stereotypes to fulfill?

February 10, 2011 |  Category:   family parenting rambling remembering

Blah blah, Tiger Mom, blah blah. After reading the WSJ excerpts, every X/Y generation Asian-American comes forward with their own war stories! Westerners are appalled! It’s old news by now so why do I bring this up now? I admit that I didn’t read the original article till rather recently. I snorted and dismissed it when I saw how the article was titled: “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”. But then you know, a rap song came out…and parodies… and memes, so I finally followed a link and read the essay (here you go if you’ve been living under a rock). None of it was shocking, but not because I was raised by a Tiger mom (this phrase is seriously cringe-worthy,… CONTINUE READING

raising girls pt2

raising girls pt2

January 24, 2011 |  Category:   life parenting

It gets harder you know. When they’re babies, their needs are basic: food, sleep, human contact, love, a change of diapers. I know I’m totally oversimplifying it and for some people the baby phase is the hardest, but I loved the baby phase, though admittedly our girls were relatively easy babies. But raising little girls, not babies, is so much harder as they get older. It’s the fine line between giving them enough freedom to discover and explore who they are while instilling enough discipline and guidance (yeah, yeah, the whole Tiger mom thing…lemme get to that in a different post) and shielding them from stuff you never want them to experience (impossible). I cringe when people gush over how… CONTINUE READING

raising girls pt. 1

raising girls pt. 1

October 22, 2010 |  Category:   life parenting

I’ll be the first to admit to you that when I left the 20 wk ultrasound of my first pregnancy and found out that we were having a girl I was happy. Like so stupidly, gleefully happy that I wonder if I would have been disappointed if I found out I was having a boy. Which is ridiculous, of course, but if I was being truly honest, I’m glad that I didn’t find myself in the situation to see whether or not that would be true. When we found out that we were having another girl a few years later, I was almost as ecstatic as I was the first time around. I will even admit to you that we… CONTINUE READING

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