I don’t really do resolutions. I don’t need yet another avenue of unrealized goals and dreams to feel bad about myself! But I did make one promise last year and that was to spend more time with friends. I’m happy to say that it was one resolution I made good on. 2010 was a year of friendships and connecting with people. It was most likely the only way I got through the mess that was the first half of the year.
When I was a child, we used to go to these epic New Year’s Eve parties with a group of family friends hosted by a rotation of homes every year. The kids had their own party within a party playing games, hanging out, and later, when we were a wee bit older, sneaking sips of drinks. The parents would play traditional Korean card games into the night with some friendly gambling and there was always a ton of food.
New Year’s Eve in recent years have been quiet since the kids have come along. In the past, Mark always worked that night at restaurants, but it was the one holiday where he didn’t mind working – even the chefs and cooks took a break to toast around midnight and it must have been nice to be in a festive, bustling atmosphere, even if you were at your job. Babysitters are hard to come by New Year’s Eve so I always stayed home with the kids. I let the kids stay up as late as they wanted last year, but they only lasted till 9:30. At that point they were both on the floor laying like corpses in random places around the apartment. After a short while they were begging to go to sleep. But oh, New Years Day! I may actually like it better than Christmas. Such a day of leisure, calm and renewal.
This year we did things a little differently. We were invited to a party by our friend Rachel in New Jersey and it felt so much like the parties that I remember fondly from my childhood. We left with an overnight bag when the skies were already pitch black and the kids managed to stay up like rock stars till past midnight. Nichole and Evan invited us to crash at their place and we did. 6 hours later the next morning, we all woke up with a little less sleep, but hours of good coffee and conversation ahead of us. I think that was the longest Nichole and I had stayed away from our computers even though we both had deadlines looming over us.
When we got back to Brooklyn, it was a new year.
Happy new year, friends.