friends, virtual and real

April 23, 2009 |  Category:   friends life


Remember when you were a kid and your best friend meant everything? That friendship was so intense that it often crossed over to awkward and uncomfortable competitiveness and jealousy. Like the worst thing that could happen to you at that age was your best friend hooking up with some other girl and dropping you for that person. As adults, I think it’s hard to replicate that same kind of intense friendship, and for years I yearned for close girlfriends like I had in high school who I could call at a drop of a hat whenever I needed. It was a big void in my life for many years and these days I do feel like I have a few friendships that come close, but lately I’ve been feeling a bit insecure and solitary. In the past few months, however, I have met up with several people who I’ve met online through Twitter (yeah, call me a geek. My friends do). Aside from this disappointment, I have met Mari, Catherine (who shares the same birthday as me), and Re Jin (whose wonderful bowls are shown above).

It’s so weird to think that I converse with my online friends daily and more often than my real life friends (through little 48×48 px avatars, no less), but I’ve enjoyed each and every face to face meeting I’ve had so far and hope that some of these virtual friendships move into real-life friendships. Who would ever think that you’d be able to make friends from strangers you meet online?? Although now I’m reminded that I met a group of moms in my neighborhood 5 years ago from a parenting message board (the old urbanbaby for those of you that know) and although we’re now in 3 different countries after years of weekly playdates, we’re still in touch. It used to be hard to meet people, especially for hermits like me who work from home all day, but not so anymore. And thank god.

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  • paige April 23, 2009 at 7:00 pm

    Some of my greatest pals life are people I’ve met along the way online. Now they’re people I vacation with, seek out daily for inspiration, and that I love. Thank goodness for all of this online madness. It’s a refreshing break from the drudgery of day to day blabberings to sometimes focus on the bigger picture and to brainstorm.

  • Sarah April 24, 2009 at 7:55 am

    I’ve never been one to have a ‘posse’ of friends. Instead I’ve always had a few really amazing ones I could always rely on. As my life shifts, so do my friends. And I feel very blessed to have met such wonderful women through blogs and on Twitter. (Including you!)

  • leslie April 24, 2009 at 1:09 pm

    Hi there!
    I just discovered your blog (via etsy). It’s such a refreshing read and a wonderful addition to my regular blog reads! Like you, I’ve met a wonderful group of friends via my blog. . . ones I text and e-mail on a daily basis, ones I’ve vacationed with etc, etc. Though my day to day friends are wonderful, it’s always nice to have my group of online pals who understand what it’s like to run an online biz. =D So glad I found your site!

  • Tumus April 24, 2009 at 2:33 pm

    I know what you mean. I really don’t have any girlfriends any more. They’re all guys. But that stems mostly from my knowledge of gaming, cars and various other “non-girly” things.

    Still I think I may have more fun with the guys than the girls most days 😆

  • carolyn May 8, 2009 at 9:14 pm

    Just catching up on the blog after a busy couple of weeks, so just seeing this now. I miss the Urbanbaby/Tea Lounge days! I’m finding it pretty hard to make friends I really click with here and it is a bit lonely. I hope some of those new online friends you’re making turn out to be close “real” friends. Life is happier with a few great friends around.

  • Jenna May 8, 2009 at 9:17 pm

    aw, we miss you here Carolyn….