good byes

August 12, 2010 |  Category:   home life

It’s a sad day here at our house. Now that I am back home after a meeting earlier this afternoon, I’m trying to keep it together. For the girls. Today is our PT nanny’s last day. For the past 6 years she’s been coming every Tuesdays and Thursdays since Mia was 3 months old. It was inevitable someday…kids grow up and they go to school…the needs of a family change…but it doesn’t make it any easier when your heart and emotions are involved.

Claudine understands that today is Mala’s last day with us, but she doesn’t fully comprehend what that means, not at 3 years old. I was trying to take these photos this morning, but she was being a complete clown, unlike Mia, who was much more subdued. I suspect she may ask why she’s no longer coming at some point, but for her, today is like any other day. Mia, on the other hand, has been taking it rather hard. Sometimes I’ll see her get real quiet and tear up and I’ll know that she’s thinking about it. It’s a big change for all of us and a big change for Mark and I too as we go into uncharted territories of not having 2 solid days of babysitting that we could always rely on. If we were juggling with work and and the kids before, we’ll be juggling even more now. But I can’t imagine what Mia must be feeling through all this. At 6 years old, some things in her world have changed through the years – new schools, friends moving away, and even new homes, but the one constant has been her nanny.

The kids are out now with our nanny, but I’m anticipating a lot of tears when they get back home in an hour or two. Mia needs to be brave, we all do. Mala’s new job is actually only a block away so this has comforted us during this transition as we know that the girls will still be able to see her once in awhile. Still, I know it’s not quite the same.

*ps. damn…that was hard.
*pps. OMG, it just hit me. We don’t have a babysitter anymore. We are so screwed.

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  • Cicilia August 12, 2010 at 3:54 pm

    🙁 i feel what mia is feelin…as i’ve been there before when i was a lot younger…

  • wendy August 12, 2010 at 3:54 pm

    i love these shots. i feel heart-achey for your girls.. mia especially.

  • Kayla @ Exquisite Banana August 12, 2010 at 3:59 pm

    I can relate, as a former PT nanny for most of college. It’s incredibly hard but I have no doubt that if she’s as special to your family as she seems, it won’t be the end. I know it’s not the same, but in the age we live in, your beautiful kiddos can still keep in touch. Best of luck in this new chapter 🙂

  • Susan August 12, 2010 at 4:14 pm

    Beautiful photos, your girls are so lovely. I’m sorry for the situation, and hope that with her close-by they can visit with her every once and a while. Kids are so resilient. Hang in there.

  • Nani August 12, 2010 at 5:08 pm

    I completely understand what mia is going through, we had a nanny with us (4 of us kids) until I was 10 and it was very hard when she moved away and could no longer care for us. She was like part of the family by then and it was very hard to understand why she was leaving.

  • Nani August 12, 2010 at 5:09 pm

    deng it comment got cut off.

    Anyhow, just be there for her and I am sure it will get better. I am sorry for the current situation but the good part is that maybe you all will see her from time to time.

  • rebecca August 12, 2010 at 7:30 pm

    i am a part-time nanny and i recently just moved to a new family as well. the last week was heartbreaking, but i know i will still be a part of their lives. take some comfort in that. and you will be fine.

  • bronwyn August 12, 2010 at 11:23 pm

    Oh poor Mia. She will be fine but still, my heart hurts for her. These things are so hard for kids to understand. Hugs to both the girls.

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  • ChantaleP August 13, 2010 at 9:12 am

    Oh Jenna! Yikes, big gulp here. We had to do the same with our caregiver but K was so excited to start new preschool, it made it easier. A bit. I think had she been older like Mia, the questions and tears would start too. But kids are soooo resilient, they are ready to start new adventures each day and the girls will remember their time with their nanny with fond memories. You might be pleasantly surprised at how well both you and Mark get along without the 2 day a week help! Although, weekends, it’s nicde to get a break. Big hug to the kids.. esp to Mia. Big hug to you too!

  • elaineganmaclaine August 13, 2010 at 9:12 am

    Love the photos… Sigh, hope they cope it well too.

    I used to be babysat by my mom’s friend, first 10 years of my childhood, and i stopped going over when mom quit her job. It affected my emotions, not eating much, silent treatments… for the whole year! Terrible me really, as i didn’t understood it all.

    Time will heal…

  • RebeccaNYC August 13, 2010 at 9:58 am

    Ach, thats tough. And I love the p.p.s. at the end. And can I just say that Claudine is just the cutest little clown? You can see the awareness in Mia, what a beauty. Thank you for sharing photos of your girls with us. (I sometimes feel like some kind of creepy stalker if I comment on them, but really, they are lovely and you seem to capture their personalities so beautifully)

  • Nicole Franzen August 13, 2010 at 10:10 am

    Ill be their new babysitter 🙂

  • Chuzai Living August 14, 2010 at 11:49 pm

    Kids grow up and changes that come along with children’s development are bitter sweet. How funny you wrote in pps that you’re screwed. I hope it’s not the case! Goodbyes are always hard, but at least your kids will get to see her once in a while instead of not seeing her at all. Good luck!