Before the kids, before the business, before a mortgage and life insurance…we got married on O`ahu, but spent a week on the big island of Hawaii after the wedding and after all the family had left. Mark and I had been to Hawaii numerous times before and we do have a family connection to the islands as that is where his mom grew up, but neither of us had been to the Big Island prior to this trip. We rented a house by the water and at times felt like the only 2 people in the world. That trip would also be our last. It’s been 10 years. We want to go back.
Mia has heard enough stories about Hawaii that she wants to go there badly. “When are we going to Hawaii?”, she asks. I tell her I don’t know. It used to be in olden days that you could get a plane ticket to Hawaii for 200 bucks from the West Coast (I even once scored a $200 RT ticket from NY!), but traveling with kids, especially when you have 4 plane tickets to buy, isn’t cheap. As the girls get older it gets more expensive. I’ve always had good luck securing our West Coast tickets to visit family months in advance, but Hawaii (or Europe for that matter) has always been out of reach. So my answer is always “I don’t know. Maybe someday.”.
Our decision to take yearly trips to Seattle was rather recent. We didn’t travel much before that, but with the in-laws coming out here less and less often, it seems like the right thing to do. Besides, my soul needs to be in that part of the country once a year, but it does limit other opportunities to travel elsewhere. I try not to use “we can’t afford it” to the kids as an explanation whenever they ask for things that they see some of their friends doing. You know, trips to Disney World, gadgets, a weekend country house, or Hawaii. I don’t really remember what I tell them, but children shouldn’t be concerned with financial matters; they should just feel secure in knowing that they are being cared for and have what they need. Hopefully. But I do hope that we can make it out to Hawaii again as a family someday. I know the girls would love it.