You know what’s funny? I can totally recreate this outfit now. Ok ok, not the pants – those wonderfully patterned, I’m-betting-it’s-polyester pants which I know is key, but everything else, yes. I HAVE a vintage hooded maroon leather trench hanging in my closet just like that and I’ve worn it recently. Huh. I’ve got some other photos too of some crazy getups my mom used to dress me in, including faux fur coats with patent white, round toe boots and this hot pink Lord Fauntleroy pantsuit with a white ruffled shirt. At one point I wore asymmetrical thick braids all over my head with those multicolored ball ponytail holders like an African American kid. But the clothes…where are these clothes!?! They are awesome! I would die to put them on the girls right now.
You should never think that you are alone in how you’re feeling because chances are, other people are feeling the same way. I’ve enjoyed reading everyone’s comments to my last post and even in the past 2 days I’ve reached some clarity. But one thing…only women feel this way? There were a few comments by guys, but unless this blog is read largely by women, which is entirely possible, guys don’t have this problem?? Please delurk and explain.
OK, so there are some real things that you can do like exercise, which I have begun and already that makes a huge difference in how you feel about your body (also, not being bloated anymore helps too). And the consensus seems to be that you should be able to wear whatever the hell you want whatever your age as long as it makes you feel good. As long as I don’t look like I’m trying ridiculously hard to be relevant and hip, or start embarassing the kids to the point where they don’t want to be seen with me, I should be fine. I think that a big part of this identity thing which I didn’t articulate earlier is now that I am completely beyond the pregnancy and nursing phase, I’m finally coming out of that post-baby and style ambiguity fog and reclaiming my sense of self and body – it’s mine again. The problem is that the body is not quite the same. I’m a bit wider in the chest and shoulders, for example, so some tops aren’t fitting like they used to and my hair is now wavy instead of straight so there is some re-evaluation involved. I think the way I’m going to approach it is to keep doing what I’m doing and not worry about whether or not I’m too old to rock this look. But kick me in the ass – and I’m sorry if I am about to offend anyone – if you ever catch me wearing Juicy velour sweats, tasseled loafers or anything out of the Coldwater Creek catalog.