I’m too old for the pit

October 3, 2013 |  Category:   favorite posts life



It’s still summer in NY. 80 degrees and warm with only a slight temperature drop in the evenings. I took a break last night to see a show I bought tickets for a few months ago. I really needed the break even though the thought of being packed in a crowd standing for a few hours in a stuffy room wasn’t particularly appealing. I had one of those moments walking around the city last night where I felt really happy to be living in NY. I don’t know why, but seeing how alive the streets were made me glad to be out in the world.

Have you ever been to a concert by yourself? I started doing this because I wanted to go to shows and wouldn’t always have someone to go with. Last night’s show at Terminal 5 to see my favorite band at the moment, Tame Impala, was a bit different from some of the older bands from the 80s/90s I’ve been going to see. The crowd was a lot younger, and by younger I mean there were kids there more than half my age. General admission shows can be a little awkward since you’re standing there by yourself, not sitting in a seat like in a theater or a big arena. Thank god for the iPhone – it’s like an insta-companion (hey, I’m busy doing important things on my phone! Not standing awkwardly around by myself).
Last night, because of where I entered, I somehow found myself close to the stage and pushed towards the pit. I had a lot of thoughts to myself standing there for 3 hours because I had no one else to talk to, including but not limited to:
I’m too old for this.
Someone is going to spill beer on me, I know it.
Don’t touch me.
If everyone would put their goddamn phones down I’d see the stage. Oh hey, look at all those cracked phone screens.
Uhhh…some of these people here were born in the 90s, including the keyboard player on stage.
Seriously dude, you’re trying to push your way through? There is NOWEHRE TO GO (I’m pretty sure I yelled this out loud).
Hey look, I see more old people.
They should reserve those seats up there on the balcony for people over the age of 40. You know, with signs like they have on buses and trains. Courtesy seats for the elderly.
*%^@#&! Strobe lights? Are they trying to kill me? Don’t they know that can be dangerous for someone my age?
Haaa, these kids next to me are complaining about having to cram for their chemistry exam after the concert. Oh wait…I still have a little more work to do for tomorrow’s deadline. Damn.
I bet Mark would have the best view of the stage if he were here since he’d tower over everyone. It’s useful being tall.
If there was a fire or an emergency, I will surely die as there is no way I can push my way out of this crowd.

I had fun. I didn’t mind going by myself despite the crowd or venue and I’ll go to more shows alone. Incidentally, Mark is going to a hip hop show by himself next week. That’s what married people with kids who can’t always afford babysitting do, you know.
Have a great weekend. If you’re in New York we’ll be at the Chile Pepper Festival at the Brooklyn Botanic Garden. It’s our favorite Fall event, except that it’s going to be 80 degrees, gah!

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  • Rachel October 3, 2013 at 11:59 pm

    Omigoodness, I love your posts! Thank you for writing so honestly!

  • Katie October 4, 2013 at 2:37 am

    Haha, I love the train of thoughts you had!

    I’ve just booked myself a ticket to the theatre this Saturday, a play that’s had great reviews, & just so happened that the whole run had sold out except this 1 seat left- made it easy for me, I don’t have to choose which friend to take! Sometimes it feels really indulgent to do stuff alone ๐Ÿ™‚

    Katie x

  • Melanie October 4, 2013 at 2:40 am

    Ah-ha! I’ve never went by myself to a concert, but that would TOTALLY be me saying a few, if not all, of these above. Not to mention I’d be hearing expressions around me by young folks and I’d be like, huh, what?

  • Kiana October 4, 2013 at 5:23 am

    HA! I’m 30 and I feel the same way as you. I haven’t been to a concert in five years because I prefer to stay in my home, in my pajamas, and listen to the music at a reasonable volume (which I think sounds better than live music anyway!). My husband’s always teasing me about how ‘old’ I am.

  • Chisa October 4, 2013 at 5:57 am

    Love Tame Impala! They’re from my bit of the world (Perth, Australia) though sadly I’ve never seen them live. I can relate to that feeling in crowded situations though.

    • Jenna October 4, 2013 at 10:03 am

      They always seem to be on tour! They’ve been in NY 3 times over the past 11 months. I guess you can tour constantly like that when you’re 25.

  • gracie October 4, 2013 at 6:06 am

    I’m 32 and already don’t like people touching me in the pit! Ha ha. I used to run up, take my specs off and jump around, not anymore. I went to Tame Impala in Dublin last month, we got a private box ๐Ÿ™‚ ! I really enjoyed it!

    • Jenna October 4, 2013 at 10:04 am


  • victoria October 4, 2013 at 6:08 am

    You made me laugh out loud. I’m with you x

  • Cristina October 4, 2013 at 7:11 am

    Oh my, this article just had me bursting with laughter in front of my screen…sooo true and funny!

  • Mary October 4, 2013 at 9:18 am

    I think it’s awesome that you go to concerts by yourself. I totally would too, although I haven’t in a really long time. I loved the commentary!

  • rj October 4, 2013 at 9:25 am

    hahaha jenna! i miss you. x

  • Stacy October 4, 2013 at 11:26 am

    haha I can so relate.

  • unha October 4, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    the last time i went to a show by myself was to this noise band. im not sure if my old ears can handle them anymore.

    • Jenna October 4, 2013 at 1:20 pm

      foam earplugs. Although I didn’t wear them to Depeche Mode strangely enough. I didn’t need them. The sound at Barclay’s Center was quite good, I thought.

  • Wendy October 4, 2013 at 2:29 pm

    I often go to shows on my own as well. Otherwise, I would miss a lot of gigs, it would be too much pity ๐Ÿ™‚ That works for movies too!
    Aaaaand I recognize myself in your comment (about the crowd, people pushing, the beer…) whereas I was born in the 90’s… Sooo, no worries… I just think people are not that civilized at gigs…

  • Desiree October 4, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    I think it is cool that you go to concerts on your own. I go to movies on my own sometimes. Going to see a movie is not a social thing anyway so I figure it does not matter. I guess it is kinda the same with a concert.
    Have a nice weekend.

  • Audrie October 4, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    I still go to gigs but now that I’m in my late 30s, I’ve too decided that I’m too old for the pit and have pretty much the same concerns as you. Even if the venue is at a club, I find a seat the second I arrive and pretty much don’t leave it till the band’s done. I don’t want anything spilled on me and I don’t need idiot kids stepping on my shoes either. And we bring ear plugs.

  • Cassie October 4, 2013 at 4:33 pm

    I used to attend concerts alone all the time in my mid-twenties, but now that I’m in my mid-thirties, I pat myself on the back when I attend a concert at all anymore. I take into consideration how long I’ll have to stand and if a band is worth an achy back.

    I remember attending a Billy Idol concert solo in my early twenties and being surrounded by wild women in their mid-thirties. Somehow I was right in front, and yes, one of those “old ladies” spilt her beer all the way down my back.

    I also remember how awkward I felt during general admission intermission during the time before cell phones. I nursed my beer for eternity and stared at heaven knows what, haha.

    • Jenna October 5, 2013 at 2:32 am

      yup, some bands are back pain worthy and some are not.

  • Anne October 5, 2013 at 7:16 am

    That made my day!! Thanks for posting!

  • ana October 5, 2013 at 4:28 pm

    this made me laugh! I am 35 but often have similar thoughts when (at rare occassions) found in clubs

  • Kat October 5, 2013 at 9:39 pm

    “Thatโ€™s what married people with kids who canโ€™t always afford babysitting do.” Bwah haha! I was just telling my husband earlier that as much as I enjoy going out with my friends (had the odd month where all of a sudden was in lots of social activities) it’d be nice for just the two of us to hang out. Looking forward to my parents having our 4 year for a few days ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Jocy October 6, 2013 at 11:00 pm

    Ah! You’re never too old.

  • jen October 7, 2013 at 12:35 pm

    awesome. i haven’t been to a show in ages. standing for hours on end just kills me these days but my husband still loves going to see live shows and will happily go by himself.

  • Christina October 7, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    So funny and so true. I haven’t laughed out loud in a long time (still have tears in my eyes). Reminds me of a time I was talking to a co-worker about how I moved to NY during the big snowstorm of Jan 1996 and he had a blank look on his face until he remembered, “Oh yeah, I was at PS 124 (elementary school) at the time”.

  • K. Thor Jensen October 8, 2013 at 1:29 am

    Best post.

  • shannon October 8, 2013 at 8:59 pm

    Love this post. So true – we went to a gig not long ago that was made for us over 35’s. Started at 9, not too loud, nice non pushy crowd. Still left straight before encore as my back was aching from standing for so long.

  • Haewon October 9, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    Love this!
    You’re much cooler than I am because I don’t even know what a pit is. And I’m not even 40, gah!

  • Jesse October 10, 2013 at 5:01 pm

    i’ve only gone to one concert by myself (it was also general admission) and it was strangely liberating. i could totally do what i wanted, get a beer, use the rest room, roll my eyes at a song, jump around and leave before the encore. i need to do that again soon.


  • Bianca October 22, 2013 at 5:29 am

    Haha! I was recently at a concert and I also thought “Geez, if there’s a fire here now, will we get out of here alive?” And then “I bet these young people won’t be having the same thoughts. God, I’m a responsible parent /older person!” Ah well, we can still dance, can’t we?

  • Kristin October 23, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    Brings me back my earliest concert days when 30 seemed beyond old. I can picture the kids sideways glancing at you like, “Who is this gorgeous, super confident lady with her intact phone screen?”