September 21, 2012 |  Category:   life me

You know, it’s pretty weird to work out some of your issues on a blog when you really stop to think about it, but sometimes I have to laugh at myself. I would never want to take myself too seriously. But I’ve also recently realized that aside from all my jokes of having anti-social tendencies, I actually do find myself needing to reach out to people during times of confusion. It helps immensely to talk it out and in this case, to also write it out, and I’ve been spending a lot of time with friends lately. Guess I’m not really such a hermit after all. I liked the analogy that someone had left in comments that this period of angst is not unlike the angst you go through in high school and college years. Maybe she is right. I’m listening to all the same music that I listened to back then. It helps.


I just want to thank all of you who come and visit the blog and leave your nice and often helpful comments, especially in recent posts. I know that I don’t respond to every single one and that is more of a symptom of not being able to have threaded comments, something that I need to address when I overhaul this blog someday, but that’s a huge undertaking and not exactly high on my priority list at this point. I keep thinking to myself that I am busy, but not busy. Does that make sense? As the holidays approach, there are so many things that I need to do and cross off my list, but I find myself much more motivated and productive when I’m really slammed. Since this year feels like it never just got off the ground in any meaningful way, I just have to readjust to this pace. It will happen. We’ve been there before. It may be a dip, but it’s not rock bottom. We’ll tighten our belts, use our brains and imagination and all that other hippie dippie self help stuff. If it all fails, I’ll go forage for spare change under the cushions of the couch and go get a tattoo.

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  • tina September 21, 2012 at 3:35 pm

    I visit your blog everyday, read what you write, adore your pictures and think you are a very smart woman going through a lot of the things we -our generation- go through. Parenthood, finances, goals in life, etc. Actually, you say people with their comments help you, but I find your blog a very helpful source as well because of your way to put things and how sometimes you become like a mirror to us. thanks and keep doing this, it is a source of inspiration.

  • Kate September 21, 2012 at 9:54 pm

    Isn’t it healthy to reach out when you know you will receive support, even help? I think you’re right about sharing on blogs being a “new normal”. Maybe our kids, no matter what issues they have about sharing stuff about their lives, as well as their photos, will end up seeing it as normal, because they’ve grown up with it. Whereas for people our age (I’m 39), this is something that has only come up in adulthood, so it’s natural to question it. Kids are often uncomfortable about their parents’ sharing stuff with other people, even if it’s just some gossip at the local supermarket, so I don’t think the forum actually matters. You’ve never gone into detail on your blog, only referring to health issues and other things in a general sort of way.

    Sorry about re-submitting my comment. My one year-old baby boy was trying to get my attention.

  • Desiree September 22, 2012 at 5:20 am

    I love your blog and I always admire your beautiful pictures. You have so much creative talent. I think the blog community is great because you can share so much and reach out when you need. The blog has given me so much such as many wonderful friends and in many ways the blog is like hanging out with friends. I find it very helpful to write down my problems and also to a certain extent share them with others. It helps you get new perspectives that may be of great value. I think we may sometimes need dips in our lives in order to apprechiate the good times even more when they come.
    Take Care and have a nice weekend.

  • RebeccaNYC September 22, 2012 at 7:06 am

    It’s me who should be thanking YOU! Your thoughtful, beautiful blog has been part of my day for several years.. I know what a commitment of time this must be for you, and I really appreciate it.

  • Tricia September 22, 2012 at 7:36 am

    Go get a tatto. I am still laughing. Maybe that is what i need. I would like to echo what a wonderful blog voice you have been for me. I just turned 42 have two kids and feel like “is this it?”. Not that I don’t love my husband, kids, friends, life…but….I feel like I want more but I don’t know what that is. I think it may be a mid life crisis. So I hear ya.

  • Renita September 22, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    LOL!! You’ll always be BAD ASS to me …

  • Rachel September 22, 2012 at 2:13 pm

    I don’t comment on here a lot, but I read every post, and I love your blog because it is so totally real. You let out the negatives, you ponder without sugarcoating, you take beautiful, real photos, and it’s all just so relatable. I’m 26, and at a completely different phase in my life than you, but I still get a lot of enjoyment reading about your life and your thoughts. So thank you for that!

  • cantaloupe September 22, 2012 at 3:01 pm

    Writing it out is definitely helpful. And writing it for an audience is even more helpful because it forces you to consider what exactly it is that you’re presenting and how much you agree with it, etc.

    And I totally agree that you should get a tattoo now. Good plan!

  • Annie From Seattle September 22, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    xoxoxoxox there’s always a vw bus to Patagonia if all else fails. I can take the NY to Peru shift, you can take the rest.

  • Liz September 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    I’m not sure if this is what you mean but I’ve found some of my most productive periods (and some of my most creative) have been when I’ve not had time to draw breath. I race through my list of things to do, hit the mark with the first version rather than one of twenty options and feel like anything is possible. And sometimes when the pressure is off it’s a wonder I get as far as the shower.

    I hate the idea that I need the pressure of a deadline. I don’t always but there are definitely times when I need that little kick. But I also know that I don’t thrive on deadlines all the time. I once worked for someone who was a deadline junky. She’d leave things to the last minute and not tell anyone about a deadline until almost the last moment. I learned so much from her; not least that I need the slack times even if I do well in the ridiculously busy times.

    I hope I’m not misremembering, but I think you’ve talked in earlier posts about the ebb and flow of life. For me, the last few years have been, in part, about learning how I thrive in different circumstances at different times. I haven’t worked out yet how I shift gear when I want to rather than when circumstances dictate. Nor have I worked out how to synch all this with the needs and interests of family, friends and colleagues. Maybe this is what mid life is about? Who knows…

    (I can offer no advice on the tattoo but I can say it’s a pleasure reading you’re blog, so thank you.)

  • Blandine October 3, 2012 at 9:55 am

    I don’t know if it’s “normal” but it sure is a comfort for me, as a reader, to realize that others too can freak out and need to vent with friends. It’s great to be get another perspective when you feel like you’re at a dead-end.

    The beginning of this comment probably doesn’t make a lot of sens (I was’nt even sure whether I should comment here or under your “undramatizing” post) – I guess it could be summarized as “I really enjoy and learn from your blog, thanks!”