this week’s walk to school

November 18, 2010 |  Category:   life

I think this is one of the milder Falls we’ve had in recent years. Makes for pleasant walks to school. It also gets me out of the house and really, it’s just too pretty outside.

Does anyone else think that November is the shortest month? Not in the number of days, but in passing. It seems to go by so quickly. We put Halloween to bed and Thanksgiving is only 3 weeks away, then 2 weeks, then OMG suddenly it’s NEXT WEEK. Really?

This month is not at all what it seemed to shape up to be a month ago. I was seriously questioning my sanity for taking on all this work from existing clients that seemed to collide into one very scary looking November and December, but there are unexpected project delays and schedule shifts. My schedule the last 2 weeks have been refreshingly light which has enabled me to deal with some holiday business stuff.

But I have a problem today. I am indecisive about something and I don’t know how to say no, even though I know I should. Why is that so hard?

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  • Lakshmi November 18, 2010 at 1:32 pm

    I have a tough time saying No too. It does get better if you are clear about why you’re saying it. Not sure if that helped…

  • PJ November 18, 2010 at 1:39 pm

    I have a fear of disappointing others, which is why I have a hard time saying no. It’s like not doing one thing for another person instantly makes me a bad friend. Deep down I know that’s untrue…

  • Jane November 18, 2010 at 2:40 pm

    I hear you, I’m always taking on more projects because I can’t bear letting anyone down, even if in reality they’d probably understand, and my reasons would be justifiable anyway.

  • Renee Alam November 18, 2010 at 3:07 pm

    You are definitely right…this month has flown by,when my husband told me next week was Thanksgiving I was arguing saying it was the week after next but obviously I was wrong.As for the weather,well,I’m in Virginia but it has been warmer so far than last November so we are enjoying it before we have to take out our heavier coats (not as heavy as the ones you’ll be needing up there though).I am like you and the other commenters,I don’t like saying no,well,I used to until my husband taught me how to speak up and just speak your mind…you don’t have to refuse something with an attitude just give your reasoning or if you have to make up some excuse.Maybe that person will be disappointed but I’m sure there’s somebody else that can do it for them…it’s not like you are the only one in the world that can do that,right?Maybe next time you will be able to say yes (I’m assuming it’s work related).If it’s something family oriented,then they should definitely understand,you know what’s best for you,nobody else does.

  • RebeccaNYC November 18, 2010 at 6:49 pm

    I hear you about the saying NO. I learned that the easiest way is to NOT give a reason for the NO, I just say “unfortunately I just can’t do that right now”. If they press me, I say something nice about whatever it is they are asking me to do, and repeat “unfortunately I just can’t do that right now”. Then I change the subject. They’ll get over it.

  • Ling and Lem November 18, 2010 at 8:08 pm

    The first photo makes my day!

  • Lecia November 19, 2010 at 3:11 am

    I love seeing your walk.

    It’s really hard for me to say no, too. I’ve evolved to saying ‘I’ll get back with you’, then calling the person to with my answer. I’m not having to answer on the spot, and if I decide ‘no’, I’m starting the conversation that way.

    And yes – the year is practically over. Yikes!

  • Catherine November 19, 2010 at 11:32 am

    I used to rarely say no and paid the price health/sanity wise. I always appreciate when someone tells me no because I know how difficult it is. And you don’t need an excuse, just a simple “I’m sorry but I can’t do that right now” often will suffice just fine.