Nah, it’s not really that short. It’s just pulled back, but sometimes I wonder if I should cut it short like this and then I remember how much maintenance it took all the times I had short hair, and I’ve had short hair probably half my life. I usually end up only getting a haircut twice a year. Making haircut appointments are about as painful as making dental appointments in the same way that both get pushed aside when I’m too busy, but I’m going to try and be better about that, particularly since I found a new stylist thanks to Anna (basically I’m just going to do whatever Anna tells me to do).
The haircut actually looks like this:
About 10 years ago when I was still writing my Asian American webzine, we had a whole issue devoted to hair. I wrote an article titled “A Lifetime of Hair Angst” that kind of went viral in the way that things went viral 10 years ago (meaning not like today with blogs, twitter and facebook, so maybe 50 people read it instead of 5000). The article was about my life-long struggles with finding the right haircut for my thick Asian hair, and it also talked at great length the perceived differences in the way men treated me depending on if I had short or long hair (so the piece wasn’t all fluff). I think in all of my years I may have had almost every kind of hairstyle and length you could think of, from a 2 inch pixie cut to hair down to my butt, big 80s perms and a mop of hair inspired by Robert Smith and the Reid Brothers from the Jesus and Mary Chain. I used to chop off my hair every 18 months whenever I’d get too comfortable hiding behind my hair as sort of a lesson in letting it go, but I dunno…since I’ve had kids it’s just been stuck in a rut because pony tail hair is easy hair right?
So what do you do when you’ve reached a certain uh, “mature” age and you’re trying not to have mom hair (’cause god forbid I actually look like a mom, haha!)? Tell me when you find the answer, ok? Especially since my hair has now gone wavy post pregnancy instead of straight and I now have freckles. Aging sure is weird.